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Sex Isn't the Problem. Shame Is: What We Were Never Taught

May 18, 2026

The most dangerous thing about shame is how quiet it is. You do not always know it is there until it shows up in your relationships, your body, and your bed. Let us just go ahead and say the thing. Sex is not the problem. It has never been the problem. Sex is a natural, human, deeply personal experience that most of us were never given the tools to navigate well. What we were given instead was shame. Heaps of it. Wrapped up in scripture, whispered warnings, raised eyebrows, and a whole lot ...

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Me Time Is Not Selfish: Building a Pleasure Practice That's Just Yours

May 13, 2026

You have been taking care of everyone else. Who has been taking care of you? I want to tell you about a moment I had recently. I was in my new space, finally settled enough to breathe, and I sat down in my favorite olive green lounge chair with a glass of Cava Champagne out of Spain, music that had nothing to with anybody else's mood, and absolutely nowhere to be be. And I just...stayed there. In my own company. On purpose.It sounds simple. And it was. I enjoy my own company. Always have. ...

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The Silence They Taught Us: How Black Culture Learned to Hush Pleasure

May 11, 2026

What they actually meant when they told us to keep our legs closed. Let me introduce you to someone you may recognize. She sat in the front pew every Sunday. Made Straights A's. Smiled at the right times. Kept her skirt below the knee. Laughed at the appropriate volume. Did not, under any circumstances, give anybody the impression that she was fast.That was me. Velvet Lenae. Self-proclaimed sexual prude, certified good girl, and future sex educator. I know. The irony is not lost on ...

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