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Masturbation Is For Pleasure...Not Orgasms

Jun 15 2026 | By: Aaron Lawrence

Masturbation Is For Pleasure...Not Orgasms

Now while that may sound odd. For the vulva owners... they've already known this. Damn near any sexual education platform talks about it and while orgasming is awesome... going into it expecting that to be the outcome creates its own set of barriers.

But for the penis holders... That message has certainly never been there. For us, because ejaculation is easy to get to.. the idea that masturbating always has to end in ejaculation is just like engrained. Over the years I've learned that masturbation is simply and purely for pleasure..

Just..enjoying myself and my body is its own form of slowing down and really connecting with myself.

Not to mention, sometimes not ejaculating is more enjoyable and gives the sensations I really want. Being able to play and stay in a space of heightened arousal without pushing myself to the point of releasing is its own form of fun.

Lastly, the body doesn't always need to ejaculate. This next sentence is for another convo but... I'd argue that while we as a society are slowly starting to have more conversations about the different types of orgasms that women can have..

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This is a much needed convo that needs WAAAYY MORE ATTENTION.

Men have also been fed a lie and that we too can have different types of orgasms. Some in the more spiritual/embodied communities know this..

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And no, I'm not talking about semen retention..

I'm talking about the fact that we think of male orgasms as simple ejaculation. But.. I think there are a multitude of ways we can orgasm that result in the physical manifestation of ejaculation. Which is why the before and after effects can differ. Sometimes our mood can even shift depending on the type of orgasm we've had. Long story short,

we've been made to believe we are so damn simple and that our sexualities are too. But they aren't...

We too have way more to offer ourselves and our sexualities than believing that just stroking to cum is a summary of our experience. It's just what we know because it's what we've been exposed to..

Aaron Lawrence is a photographer and writer. His work focuses on intimacy, sexuality, and acceptance.

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Jun 28, 2026, 8:16:12 PM

Palesa - Greetings I enjoyed this blog V. I was hoping to get some more verbiage and i am hoping that Aaron goes more in depth with this next contribution. I have go agree most men that I know or have encountered have been mainly focused on get their "nut" and not all the fantastic pleasure that can come from sex/love making/fucking. I don't believe that they have taken the time to get to know there bodies, there pleasure centers, kinks (if they have any) or simply exploring there bodies....by themselves before getting with a partner.

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